The Golden Rule: Our True Choice

Regardless of the politicians we choose, what occurs on a daily basis with how we choose to treat one another defines us as a people. Look beyond the words and rhetoric and choose to find the good in people. Don’t disregard a brother, sister or friend because you disagree with them politically or religiously, but…

Remembering love is a verb on our 28th wedding anniversary

“…To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. I will love and honor you all the days of my life.” We continue to live these vows each day, through all that we have endured together, from…

The Darkest Night Since My Son Died

Last week marked one year since my 15-year-old son Christian died tragically and unexpectedly. The last 365+ days have been the darkest night my soul has known. St. John of the Cross detailed a dark night of the soul in his poetry as “a spiritual crisis in the journey toward union with God.” Other perspectives…

A moment in life…

These are the moments people don’t see. When I am alone at my desk and overwhelmed by the loss of my son and the tears just well up in my eyes. My heart breaks again and again, yet I still go on looking for moments in life that will again bring joy, and those moments…

Is there life after my son’s death? 

Today marks four months since the tragic death of my son Christian. I knew the holidays would be hard, but they were more difficult than I could have imagined. I thought I might be able to come through them a bit refreshed; but instead, I feel more like I did in the days and weeks…

Be Kind…It’a Easy!

On a day after Christmas stroll through our neighborhood, my wife found this painted rock. Kids paint and hide these rocks for neighbors to discover and then hide for the next person to find. I think this is a wonderful message for which we should all be reminded. Be kind…it’s easy!

A Simple Christmas Wish

After the death of my 15-year-old son Christian on September 5, I have just one wish for all of you this Christmas season. Please take just a moment to hear what it is and share it with your family and friends. Merry Christmas!

I Am Not Your Enemy

I am not your enemy, and you are not mine. I am a son, brother, husband, father, friend and neighbor. I believe in God, love my family and go to work each day. I am an American with a range of beliefs, thoughts and ideas, some of which you are aware, and others we have…