Three things I have learned about end-of-life care from treating elderly couples with cancer 

Experience provides fortitude, equanimity and perspective. Not everyone wants to live forever

“We are happy and sad to see you again. You looked after Dad years ago.”

I kick myself for not registering the connection, although I only met him during a brief and disastrous stint in hospital.

The complications of cancer treatment had kept mounting until his wife was forced to admit her 85-year-old husband to hospital despite his protestations. His memory had faded and his moods turned volatile. He died in hospital, captious and discontent. I now recall the exhaustion of the family and their guilt-ridden attempts to reconcile with his end.

Elderly couple in winter walking with sticks, UK

Some of my work involves seeing cancer patients in their 80s and 90s. The mission of a “geriatric oncology” service is to treat the cancer in the context of the whole patient; while it can be said that all cancer care ought to share this mission, elderly patients are a particularly vulnerable group, with little margin for misadventure. Since two in five people will receive a cancer diagnosis by the age of 85, there have been several occasions when I have treated both husband and wife.

Here are three things that I have learnt from looking after my most elderly patients.

1. Their goals differ

While younger patients compare their treatment to what someone else is having or bring in an overseas recommendation, and (understandably) want to leave no stone unturned, even at the cost of significant toxicity, my oldest patients often have a different goal – to preserve quality of life and maintain independence, even at the cost of survival.

Source: Three things I have learned about end-of-life care from treating elderly couples with cancer | Ranjana Srivastava

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